Category: loss

Fare Thee Well Mum

Hello lovely people:
I would like to take this opportunity to thank you all for your support through this difficult year and my mother in laws battle with cancer.
However, for those who do not know, she passed on peacefully at home on Sunday 23rd June, 2013.
We held a service and burial ceremony on 29th June 2013 and are now in the process of trying to move on.
It has been a truly difficult time for us.
We loved her so much and were torn between letting her go since she was suffering too much from the cancer or holding on too her and continually taking care of her.
Sometimes, its such a conflicting situation. We have had conflicting feelings for such a long time.
However, she did prepare us.
She told us not to pray for her healing but for God to do his will.
The night before she died (I still cannot believe am typing that word) she prayed for each one of us separately. She talked to us and told us the kind of life she wanted us to live.
It was an emotional night but an amazing fellowship.
Its like she knew.
Looking back, I know she was ready and when that Sunday afternoon came, with my father in law watching and praying with her, she breathed her last and slipped into the hands of God.
She was a firm believer so I know that her eternal dreams have been fulfilled.
We loved her and will always do and we do miss her terribly.
We cry a lot.
But we know that God picked the best from His garden.
He did not want her to suffer anymore.
He wanted to restore her health and give her the fullness of life.
I do feel teary writing this but I know she is in a truly better place.
A place where cancer is non-existent.
A place of pure and unrestricted joy.
Fare thee well Mum!
We do love you so very much!

One Year Later: Tribute to Grandma

Today is a beautiful day. The sun is out for once in this week and the day looks like its gonna be really good. Am alive and thats also something to be grateful for today. 
However, there is something tugging at my heart today. You see, one year ago today (21st July), my grandma- my dad’s mum passed on. I wrote about it here. It was a sad, sad day. I cried my heart and my eyes out and 7 days later we laid her to rest.
My grandma passed on at home, infact outside her house, with some of my aunties and cousins with her. I believe that she wanted to be close to people she loved when she died. 
It has taken a lot of time for me to accept that she is gone but today, am not here to cry, but to celebrate the life of an awesome woman. Her passing on has taught me so much. 
I now know that life is something so precious. I have learnt that there is not time to hold onto grudges. If you love someone, just tell them. If you care about a certain cause, follow your heart. There is no time to waste doing things that dont make you happy. 
I have learnt that the connections, friendships and relationships that we create with other people are the most important thing in our lives. Without such connections, we are dead inside. We must do things that make us feel alive. Things that excite us and keep us happy.
Grandma:
I know you are watching over us everyday and taking care of each one of us. However, this does not ease the fact that we miss you dearly. We will never forget who you were to us. The things you taught us (and especially me) are embedded close to my heart. And above all granny, we love you so much, always have and always will. 
Many many hugs and kisses to you!! 
Today, We remember you!!
 

                                        Grandma and me on my graduation (Dec 10, 2010)