Category: happy

How I give myself happiness in 6 super simple and satisfying ways

how to give yourself happiness Your happiness is your own responsibility. (Raha jipe mwenyewe)

This is something I have read and heard on many platforms and it has really stuck with me.

You cannot sit and wait for other people to make you happy. It is not only unacceptable, it is also unrealistic and impossible. Expecting others to make us happy is one of the major reasons most of us are always sad/angry…(at least most of the time).

It is too much of a responsibility to expect your husband or wife or friends to make you happy all the time. They will certainly disappoint you and you will die seeking something that you will never find.

After pondering on this fact for many days, it rang so true with my heart that I decided to take action and find happiness for myself. I have found simple and cheap (some don’t even require a single cent) ways to keep myself happy. In fact, am happiest when am not spending any money.

Here are some of the most meaningful ways I’ve found to give myself happiness:

  1. Dancing with my son. He is 2 and has no care in the world. When it comes to dancing, he will shake what his mama gave him (am a generous mama, so I gave him a lot), without thinking twice. You should see us on Friday and Saturday evenings grooving to the upbeat Mugithi tunes from bands that have made it their jobs to entertain us so well on Njata TV. True story. By 10.30p.m, we are extremely tired, but extremely happy too and the boost of positivity is enough to last me another week.
  2. Cooking. Many people mention this and it may be a cliche, but cooking is therapeutic. I love it. I enjoy mixing up ingredients and trying new things. I also love honoring my family’s requests for mandazi almost every weekend. I am in debt right now because I have failed to make mandazi for almost a month now.
  3. Reading. I love browsing through the internet and finding useful articles, but I mostly like to read real books, printed on real paper. There is something refreshing about the smell of a new book, and something wildly exciting about discovering the stories behind characters in a story. You should definitely try it. You will definitely forget your troubles and immerse yourself in the lives of other people. One of the books am really swooning over is the one below. I hear its really good, click on the picture and lets try it together.romancing your husband
  4. TV. This is my guilty pleasure, but I try not to overindulge. In fact, I watch only a handful of shows that I really like and am more into series and movies, as opposed to soap operas and that kind of stuff. My favorites right now are The Bachelor/Bachelorette, Tyrant, The Last Ship, and a few cooking shows that I watch online.
  5. Exercise. I’ve not been working out much lately, but I know how good I feel when I actually do it. Once you get the groove of exercising, it is not only healthy, it is also super fun. I especially like exercises that can be done at the comfort of the home. My son is my favorite workout partner and he already knows how to do push-ups and sit-ups, and he helps me count to ten, just to make sure I finish doing the sets.This book offers some simple, yet effective workouts and the added bonus is that it comes with a DVD.(Click on the picture for more info. What more motivation do you need?Home workout with DVD
  6. Swimming. I almost forgot to include this one, but I love it so much. There is nothing as refreshing as a swim on a hot summer afternoon. The fact that it burns a lot of calories, and keeps the heart healthy is an added advantage. The happiness is what we are after.

Are some of these things in your list of ways you give yourself happiness?? If not how do you do it?? Am open to more happiness tips, since life is too short to live a sad life.

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Happy Weekend

Enjoy your weekend

I have so much planned for this weekend.

I am praying that everything will run smoothly and that everyone will have a blast.

I am also praying that you have the best weekend ever.

Let go of your troubles and live large.

Hug, kiss, laugh, dance, or d whatever makes your heart sing.

Enjoy yourselves people!

I hope to hear of it on Monday.

Why am excited for September!!

wake up determinedThere are those times in our lives that we just want to look at the bad things and just focus on the crazy. I don’t know whether its the weird mentality that was wired within us from an early age that being happy all the time is not possible…I just don’t get it.

Thinking about this post, I was scared to focus on the things I was looking forward to in September. My focus was a little bit off…OK..way off because I didn’t really think there were good things waiting for me in September.

But as I started thinking harder about it, I realized that September is gonna be a beautiful month. There is so much to look forward to. SO SO MUCH.

  1. My baby is turning two. His birthday will be on a Monday but we will definitely find a way to celebrate. For people with older kids, it might be hard to understand why two years seems like such a big deal. But to me, it is such a big deal. My first born is growing old and he is walking and talking and making all sorts of awkward sentences and I love it. In fact, I want to freeze these moments and just make him grow in slow motion so that I can enjoy him a lot more. I still can’t believe he will be 2…I hope this brings out his sweetness and not his tantrums!!
  2. Am excited about more work. I know most people hate having to work more, but am the opposite. I love it when am busy. I love the strict deadlines and I enjoy the pressure. It makes me feel alive. In fact, when things are a bit slow, I feel weird and bored and demotivated. I love working hard. It gives a certain kind of pleasure and satisfaction I cannot explain. I actually wanna meet more people like me…If you are out there..Holla!
  3. Am alive. Am excited that I am alive this month. That I have the opportunity to chase my dreams and to see things I’ve worked hard for come to fruition. It is so exhilarating to know that this month is another opportunity for me to be my best and to go further in achieving my potential.
  4. Am excited for kisses. For ‘I love you’s’, for hugs, for fun times with my girls, and for a joy-filled heart.

I wish you a beautiful September.

Much love.

How to Incorporate Yellow into Your Life

Today, I want to introduce you to the most gorgeous, brightest and beautiful colors on earth. I bet you already know it but you dont give it much attention. It is by far my favorite color and it is only fair to say that am obsessed!Lets hear it for YELLOW!!!

It does not matter what we are talking about, be it dresses, tops, shoes, interior decor, whatever: Yellow runs this place. I love the brightness and the sunshineness (is that a word???) of this color! Moreover, I think you can combine it with anything. But especially Grey. I dont know if its my love for Grey’s Anatomy or otherwise but I think a combination of two of my most favorite things is a good Combo. So after much thought an analysis, I think my wedding’s theme colors will be Yellow and Grey.

I digress!!,please forgive me. So I was talking about how Yellow can be combined with anything. Black, blue, purple, Green, Indigo (eeerrrr!!!) or any other colors that you might invent. I just love it and I welcome you on a joourney of how Yellow can be incorporated into your and my life!
1. To start a blog post. I laugh at myself right now!

2. Yellow dresses, wedges, pumps, all of it. And that blue bag goes really well with it.

 3. Blazer, with jeans and stripped top. Beautiful. Chevron, grey and yellow, YES!!!! Lacy dress in a very light shade of yellow is gorgeous too.

 4. And then there was Lace, Yellow Lace to be specific. And I fell in love. And we lived happily ever after!Nothing else to say!

5. Oh and just so you know, yellow is good for the house too. Just look at these accessories or beauties as I call them. Too awesome.

I think I’ll just relax and admire everything in yellow. I love yellow. It brightens my days even when it is just on the internet. I hope you discover the power of Yellow. And by the way, Yellow is my guiding word for this year: to brighten mine and other people’s lives and spread sunshine in our world.
The only way we can have more yellow right now is by listening to Coldplay’s; yellow. That way our world would be complete. 
Love you and just so you know, I loved writing this post and I hope you enjoy reading it!
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Happy and Merry March and [just a recap of Feb]

First I love you so much. I know its weird to start a blog post with the three magical words. But, whats a girl to do, I love you and I just have to say. You know, sometimes I do not have the courage to say these words to my family and friends in real life. But here, it is so easy to say, but this does not mean I don’t mean it. Actually, I do, very much, because you have been there for me my dear bloggie friends. Always. It does not matter whether I stop writing because I do not feel like or I do, you are always waiting and when I get back and share, you are there for me. And for this I love you very much!
Source: via Heidi on Pinterest
Agenda no 2: Happy new Month. Its March already. How days run. I sometimes wonder where they are running off to, but I cant control it. So what do I do? I enjoy it and I hope you do too. Am so happy that we made it this far and I wish a beautiful and bright month ahead. Be merry this March and say “I love you” more often.
Agenda no 3: February Recap
So what did I do this February
~Work and make money, yes I did
~Celebrated Valentine’s with someone kind of special {Ok he is special}
~Spent the whole of last weekend traveling, drinking and dancing with cousins and friends
~Refill my kitchen
~Be Happy
~Be Alive
Thats it, hope you had fun in February and I promise you {PROMISE} that more fun is coming this month. So please, enjoy and have real FUN[the kind that tickles your bones]
Don’t you forget

Be happy first, then the rest will follow

In my quest to find endless happiness, I have noticed one thing that has been embroidered in our brains for so long. We want things to come first, then after we get those things, we always say we will get happy. Then the things come, we find faults in them and the happiness is sadly, very SHORTLIVED

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but we often repeat this process over and over again, expecting different results. Sorry to say this, but even a bird or even a monkey knows that doing the same thing over and over again, will only bring the same results.

Only after doing this many times and reading some very powerful books, did I realize that the journey to happiness is the opposite of what we have been doing. So, now I understand that my happiness comes first and the rest of the stuff comes later.

Right now I know that a car or a house will not make me happy. I know, I know, others will say that they would rather be sad in a mansion but really??? Do you really want to be sad in a mansion??? The mansion might seem like a good idea for the first few months but you get lonely, the sadness increases and you wish you were happy in a tiny hut.

Happiness is what each one of us is searching for and its as simple as a decision. When you decide to be happy, the stuff no longer dictates when or how happy you are. It is no longer about the car or the sofa or the I-Phone, it is about You. Now, you understand that even when I dont have the stuff, I can be happy and still enjoy my life. The knowledge that everything is Ok and will always be ok comforts you and you enjoy everyday. And as you enjoy each day, laughing and smiling, more good things will come your way and it will feel like your eyes have suddenly been opened to new beauty. And happily ever after will no longer seem like a dream but it will become a reality.

I love you and wish you a Happy Valentines.

When one needs to be brave

There are many times that each one of us finds themselves in a position of fear or a lack of courage. When we get to this place, the only solution is to find a way that we can find the courage and be brave. For example, lately, I know I have not been the blogger I used to be. Reason being a lack of internet at home, and sometimes just pure laziness. In most cases, I have to find a place where I can find my strength again and start writing.

Source: via Laura on Pinterest

However, I know there are more serious situations that people go through and have to find a place of braveness, a place where courage comes from within. A place where the voices of fear on the outside become softer and the voice of courage begins to find root.

For example, when loss confronts us and someone special is gone, we often feel a deep sense of hurt and some very weird feeling of fear. Fear of not knowing how to live our lives without that person. By loss, I mean death, separation, divorce, a breakup, distance and many other kinds of losses. It is difficult. I admit that. However, it is inevitable. We must move forward. After all the crying, worrying, stressing: we all come to one point. The point where we must move forward.

This is the point where one must search for braveness, no matter what obstacles are on the way. Where do you go when you need to be brave?

Some people go to church, some to therapists, some to friends, some to Google, name the place and there is someone who goes there in search of braveness. However, in the few years that I have lived, I have come to understand that the only place where braveness and all the other good qualities exists in abundance is WITHIN. INSIDE. Braveness rests inside of me, inside of you and inside of everyone of us. When that moment comes, and I have to be brave, I always look inside. Once there, I analyze whatever issues am facing, take my time and step by step, I begin to find my place of courage.

I do prayer, I meditate, I write, I dance but it all comes from inside. I must find the strength to do these things from inside my soul. The courage and braveness you might be looking for lies somewhere deep INSIDE of you. It is in your soul and is abundant in ways that you have never imagined.
Just take a peek INSIDE and see that it is all there. INSIDE.

Thankful Thursday-Today's

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Am generally a positive girl but i have not always been like this. In my early years, i was the kind of person that lived in fear, afraid of the future. So afraid of failing and also of the pain that i might face in future. But i soon met some people, read some literature and watched some movies and finally chnaged my life.
Am now the kind of person that is no longer afraid. Am excited about life and about the changes that are taking place in my life.
So today, am THANKFUL for Today’s. The many beautiful today’s that i have seen. The ones that have brought a smile to my face and me a better person. Am thankful for people who take their time to encourage me and others who need this encouragement.
Am Happy and Thankful for today was a beautiful day.
Link up at Southern Charm and share what you are thankful about.