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Shaken Baby Syndrome: The Killer Monster You Should Know About

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I was watching a documentary last week. It was a weight-loss story. A 44 year-old woman was talking about how she had let herself go and just gained an enormous amount of weight.

She talked about what issues led her to where she was now. She talked about how her heart was broken 17 years ago, when a nanny shook her son to the extent that he suffered irreparable brain damage. It was a heartbreaking story to watch and I knew I had to share it.

Shaken Baby Syndrome.

I know most of us have never heard of it, but this does not mean that it is not existent. This syndrome leaves babies with serious brain damage, which is sometimes fatal.

Shaken baby syndrome occurs when an infant or toddler is violently shaken. According to shaken baby syndrome is “caused by someone (most often a parent or other caregiver) vigorously shaking a child or striking the child’s head against a surface.” Something as simple as shaking a baby could lead to serious complications that could affect the baby’s life forever.

We leave our babies with caretakers, some of whom we don’t know very well and they could do this to our babies.

how to avoid shaken baby syndrome

Some mothers, as well as fathers have an impulse to hurt the baby, and this could ruin the baby’s life forever. It is your duty as a mother to tell those who take care of your baby to NEVER EVER shake your baby violently. No matter what.

Symptoms of shaken baby syndrome

  • Difficulty staying awake
  • Paralysis
  • Seizure
  • Skin turning blue
  • Poor feeding
  • Difficulties breathing
  • Coma

Make sure you visit a doctor immediately if your baby is experiencing any of these symptoms or you suspect that your baby has been shaken or hurt.

A child who survives such shaking may be paralyzed for life or have mental problems, as well as blindness and speech and developmental problems.

There are many tests and treatments available for babies with shaken baby syndrome.Always seek medical attention as soon as possible.

Happy Birthday: 2 years

My baby is 2.

Can you believe that??I can’t!!

I need someone to sit me down and explain to me how it is already two years from that beautiful day that I met this little champion.It has been a whirlwind. One that I absolutely love and enjoy.

I enjoy being a mother to such a handsome boy. Although he sometimes drives me crazy, I still treasure him so much. His birthday party was awesome. We had our friends and many of his friends over and it was such a fun birthday. The pictures don’t do justice to how beautiful his special day was, but I hope you get the idea.

Happy birthday my Lowell Sedar. Cheers to many more.

I hope to share more about how we planned it and made it happen.

The Birthday boy

Birthday boy with friends

Lowell feedingThe food

Good foodKenyan pilausteamed cabbagePlated kenyan lunchVegetable riceThe Cake

Birthday Cake 1 Birthday cake 2   It was one of the most beautiful days ever!

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When your baby (heart) is far away from you

lowell and me

My baby is my heart, hence the title.

My Lowell has been away at his grandma’s for more than a week now. And I feel empty. I lack purpose. I lack the motivation to cook, or to eat, or to go to work.

Don’t get me wrong. I do all these things everyday (of course am not gonna starve to death), but I lack the motivation or the drive that I have when he is around.

To summarize it in 3 powerful words…

I miss him.

The point of this visit to my mum’s place is that we want to start a new tradition, or keep an old tradition anyways. I remember when we were young, we would go visit our grandmothers during the holidays. We had so much fun and were spoiled beyond repair. Grandparents’ love is like no other. I see it in the way my hubby loves his grandma and how she loves him back. Its precious.

Being their first grandchild, I know my parents love my son with every little bit of their wonderful hearts.

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But more importantly, I know that Lowell loves them so much. (Am tearing up right now). He is so happy with my mum. You should see them playing around and laughing so hard. Its beautiful. Don’t get me talking about how adorable it is to hear my oh so strong Daddy talking Kikuyu to my son, who understands none of it but nods in agreement.

I want my baby to know this love and to feel it in his heart and to treasure it, so that when he is back, he misses his grandparents.

But its taking a toll on us. I woke up yesterday very early to scroll through his pictures on my phone. I was doing it secretly, but soon after I caught my hubby watching videos of Lowell on his phone. We miss him terribly.

I now realize how big the part he plays in our lives is. A part?? Who am I kidding. He is everything. He is our life.

I feel for those mums who have to leave their kids and go to school, or go work in a foreign city or worse, different country. I now know the kind of sacrifice they make. I feel for the mums who have lost their babies. Its tough and only God can give them peace.

I miss the tantrums, the cries, the hair pulling, the craziness, the broken toys, the scolding and the tough love moments. But what I miss most are the hugs, and the kisses. The loud high-pitched voice calling ‘Mommy’ and ‘Daddy’ hundreds of times each day.

I miss his weird sleeping habits. I miss waking up in the middle of the night to find his legs on my face, and the midnight stomach punches. (I promise, am moving him to his bed asap)

I miss it all.

See you soon baby.

My C-Section Experience. Read then Decide. Don't Rush.


My baby will be turning 2 exactly three weeks from today. Its so sweet to see him reach his milestones and am awed by how fast these two years have gone. However, the days towards his birthday often become a reminder of the things I went through to bring him into this world.

I do remember those last weeks of August 2013, how heavily pregnant I was, and how much I just wanted to sleep all day and do nothing. I remember how we moved to a bigger house so that we would have more space to raise the baby. I do remember how much yogurt I had, as it was the only thing that took away the weird taste in my mouth. I remember taking a break from work, and thinking what a sacrifice that was. I just discovered that I never posted his birth story yet I remember typing it out. #forgetfulmama

As the days moved closer to my due date, I began getting a little scared. By the way, my baby was born one week past his due date. I had my bags packed, and like the planner I am, I was actually ready weeks before. I read a lot of articles on what to expect and I thought since I had a pretty normal pregnancy, the delivery would also be the same. I had also been very active during my pregnancy, and my hubby used to take me for long walks to make sure I had an easier time giving birth (If anything like an easy birth exists!!).

And so when the labor kicked in on that 14th day of September (a Saturday), I felt confident that everything would go as expected. (Expectations are the worst, they can kill you). However, things didn’t go as planned.

I was dilated 4cm when I was admitted at around 9 a.m in the morning, and little did I know that there would not be much progress from there. One of the nurses told me to take a walk around the hospital to quicken the dilation. I came in to get checked at 1 pm and the Doppler showed that my baby’s heartbeat was too fast. The nurse looked a little bit worried and told me to take a nap and rest to try and calm him down. Please note I was still in labor. Several hours later, his heart was still racing and a doctor was called in, and within minutes, I was wheeled down to the theater for an emergency c-section. At 9.25 p.m. Lowell Sedar was born.

Fast forward to 1.25 am, I regained consciousness for a few minutes and I remember asking one of the nurses for my baby. She said he was in the nursery and would be brought to me when I was feeling better. I went back to a deep slumber and woke up at 5 am to find a male nurse handing me my bundle of joy. I wish I could freeze that moment, but it is etched in my memory forever.

The moment I realized the kind of pain associated with a c-section was when I tried to get off my bed to go to the washroom. It was horrible, the pain was crazy and though I had been given strong painkillers, it was just so painful. I did not manage to get to the bathroom and I waited until someone could come and hold my hand.

For the next few weeks, I got used to this pain. I needed help getting off a chair, off my bed, taking a shower, lifting my baby, and pretty much everything. It was hard to wake up in the middle of the night to feed and comfort my crying baby. I remember how traumatizing it was thinking that someone cut my tummy and sew it back. Ouch!! The only comfort was the sight of my baby. C-section recovery is not easy and it takes months and its super crazy. This is why I find it hard to think that one would freely choose to go under the knife.

It scares me to think that I want other babies, and most likely I will have more c-sections because my body refuses to open up. Am terrified of the day after, the struggle of needing so much help to do the most basic things. It is scary to think that 2 years later, lifting something heavy might cause trauma to my c-section scar, which can lead to serious complications. It is scary to think that being pregnant again could stretch my scar too far.

However, this post is not meant to scare anyone. This is just my experience, my story and I would love to hear yours. Also, not all c-sections are the same, in fact none are similar. This is especially so for those of use who cannot go through a normal delivery, but if you can, please stick to that. Because it is natural and so much less riskier. Please.

I know I will weather the next c-section and the next one too, because the sight of my beautiful babies will give the pain so much more meaning. It makes you forget. And as I hear Lowell saying ‘av you’ (love you), it makes it all worth it.

2 months

My baby boy is  2 months old today and I love him like crazy.
He is growing up so fast.

                                                                       Much love!!!

Random things about Pregnancy, A letter to baby and Inaugural blog bump pictures

Hello lovelies!
I know I seem kind of unstable in my blogging.
Unstable is even an understatement. I usually don’t even know where to start when I open a new blog post.
Frankly, the blank page kind of scares me.But am trying to get back, little by little.

25 weeks 1 day

So today, I wanted to share with you some pictures of the bump.
Baby is growing so fast. Am getting bigger by the day and this whole pregnancy shenanigans will be over before I know it.

-Oh, and my feet are more swollen than ever so there’s that.
I swear I’ve never had feet as big as this. And I totally dislike when everyone is like, ‘Oh, your feet are so swollen, sorry, do this and that and that and it will help”.
I know people are just trying to be helpful but it sucks to have ankles the size of apples and shoes that don’t fit by the end of the day.
-Oh another random thing about pregnancy is the medication. One day you are on Folic acid tablets, next day is iron supplements, next time is an antibiotic to fight an infection, next is vitamin supplements……its actually kind of crazy.
I actually told my hubby today to go buy the meds prescribed by the doctor yesterday and come take them himself. It kind of sucks to always be on medication but if its for baby, I guess I can take a few more.

25 wks, 5 days
-One beautiful and random thing is the big kicks am getting these days. I will be 26 weeks on Saturday and the baby is one strong one. The kicks are getting stronger and baby is active all the time these days. Its exciting and so reassuring to know that someone is growing in my tummy and they like to play around.

-Appetite has not been too good these days. I eat something little and my stomach get full. Sometimes during lunch time, am still full from what I ate for breakfast making it difficult to maintain proper feeding habits. I think the baby has pushed my intestines up so they do not have enough space for food.
Am really rambling here, so let me leave it at that.

Dear Baby,

25 weeks, 5 days

One sentence. We love you too much and we cant wait to have you here with us so we I can dress you up in the cute clothes we’ve been buying you.
Loving thoughts,
Mummy and Daddy.

Bumdate: 24 Weeks

Hello good people,
Am back again with another bumpdate.
I can honestly tell you that the baby is definitely getting bigger. No more hiding.
My bump is all over the place.
But, I think that’s a good thing coz it only means we are getting closer to meeting our baby for the first time.
How far along am I: 24 weeks 4 days
How am I feeling: Right now? Sleepy. Generally feeling good
Total Weight Gain: Maybe 6 kgs or 13lbs. Sometimes I feel so huge yet at other times I feel too tiny.
How big is Baby:According to Baby Center, baby is the size of an ear of corn. Really, that sounds weird. Anyway, lets just say that is the size.

The baby is a foot long this week.
Maternity Clothes: Yes, all the way. Am thinking of shopping for some more this week.
Stretch marks: Not yet. However, for the past week I had this weird rash on my breasts that spread to the neck and was really ugly. I went to the doctor and was given some medicines which have worked miracles. Its now clearing up and I am slowly going back to showing off my cleavage! (better do it while you can, right? Who knows what will happen when the baby is here.)
Sleep: Am always sleepy. But I think I was a little overworked last week. Hope to catch up on sleep as the week wears off.
Best Moment of this Week: I could say Sunday when my hubby’s family came to visit my parents. It was a really good day for us.
Movement: Lots of movement. The baby likes to start moving around when am lying still or just silent and relaxed which is similar to last week. He also moves when I eat or drink something. Am yet to master what he likes and what he doesn’t.
Food Cravings: Most definitely! Loving soups and comfort food. I’ve been having a terrible cold so I’ve been really specific on what I eat. I found a really nice website called Hellofood that delivers food from my favorite local Nairobi restaurants at a very low cost. Am loving it coz now it means I can actually eat what I want without the stress of cooking or physically going to the restaurant.
Food Aversions: I just don’t like strong smelling food. Thats it.
Labor Signs: Nope.
Belly Button In or Out: Kind of almost out. I can actually say it is overstretched. This baby is really getting big.
What I miss: Feeling more energetic and not having to take medicine every night.
What am looking forward to: More baby shopping. Cant wait to get the baby some more clothes and cute stuff that just makes me wish the baby was here already.
Milestone: 6 months already!!Doing good!!Am proud of me, hubby and baby!

22 Weeks Bumpdate

Hello amazing people,
There I go again, vanishing from the surface of the earth and when you think I’ll never come back, I pop out again.
Talking of popping, someone has popped. And when I say popped, I mean some part of my body has really popped.
If you read my previous post which was like a month ago, I think, I spilled the beans on my pregnancy.
I am doing pretty well and although there are still no pictures, I still want to give you a bumpdate.
Its been a good ride so far and I only hope it gets better.
We are already past the halfway mark and time is waiting for no woman this time around.
So here we go:
How far along are you:  22 Weeks and 3 days
How I’m feeling: I feel pretty good these days. Hunger pangs do strike now and then but am doing Ok. Also, I’ve been bloated this week but today woke up feeling better. Also I’ve got this newfound enthusiasm for life. Guess thats what comes with being a first time mommy.
Total Weight Gain: Am not really sure, but at the last doctor’s appointment, I had gained a total of 5 kgs or you can say 11 pounds. My mum was a little happy about this since she has been telling me that am not gaining enough weight.
How big is baby: I hope baby is big enough. According to BabyCenter, baby at this age is 11 inches long and the size of a spaghetti squash.

Maternity clothes: Yep, none of my jeans fit anymore. But there is one that I still squeeze into even though I cannot zip up.
Stretch marks: No. Hoping that they don’t show up any time soon.
Sleep: Am kind of sleepy these days. I never stay up past 10.30 except when am working night shifts. However, this week I’ve not slept too well. Last night, I woke up in the middle of the night to tell hubby that my baby is not allowing me to sleep. I think I need some extra pillows.
Best moment this week: On Saturday, my sister and I went shopping and bought some baby clothes. Some onesies, little warm sweaters, socks and a warm hat. It felt so good and made everything so real. I really do adore my sister and she is great company esp. for shopping. I think she will be a great auntie.
Movement: Yes, the baby is very active. Especially when am relaxed, I feel like there is a boxing match in there. But I love it, so very much. Sometimes baby kicks when am at work or in a serious meeting and I just smile to myself thinking that no one else can feel it but am actually carrying a human being inside of me.
Food cravings: Yes. I’ve been craving fish for the longest time and I’ve not yet gotten around to eating some. Think I should do that today.
Food Aversions: None.
Labor Signs: Nope.
Belly button in or out: In. However, it is not as in as it was before I got pregnant. I think that as the baby gets bigger, it is coming out more and more.
What I miss: I miss wine or just some kind of alcohol. I juts love my baby too much to take any at this time.
What am looking forward to:Oh, am so looking forward to the ultrasound two weeks from now. I cant wait to see the baby move about and maybe have a peek at his nether regions to know the gender.
Milestone: Just getting to 22 weeks is a milestone by itself. Feeling he baby move is also a big milestone. I’ve started doing some shopping too and I think that’s a big milestone too.


My weekend has been super busy. I’ve not even had time to settle down and blog.
Anyway, am back and I’ve missed you all so much.
This is how my weekend was:
-I was called for an interview and spent a large part of the day there [hope it goes well]
-Went to see my newest nephew [Miguel]
-Completed some work
-Did laundry
-Slept really late in the company of hubby’s family
-Some airport business to take care of..
-was a little sad
-Slept really early coz I was extremely exhausted

As you can see, the details of my weekend are really scanty but it was a good one. I just hope that yours was good too.
And to cap it all, here is a picture of me and my nephew Miguel (that name is really awesome, right?)

                                                                  Have a fabulous week!

Me, Myself & I

I think am going crazy because I so much want to write a blog post but sometimes I just can’t. I just hope that this week will be much more interesting in this blogworld.
However, today I choose to let you in into my life so that you can get to know me better. Am linking up with Amanda at For Love of a Cupcake for Me, Myself & I.

1st Q:What is your biggest phobia??

Ooooh!Thats an easy one. I have a really huge fear of caterpillars. I cringe at the name and I dont even think I can post a picture of one. Am too scared.

2nd Q: If you could relive any day of your life, what would it be and why??

Am not sure about this one. There have been really awesome moments in my life but the one I would wish to relive would be the day I met my youngest niece, Crystal. She is such an angel!

3rd Q: If you could choose to stay a certain age forever, what age would it be??

I think I would wish to stay at 25, where I am right now. Discovering myself and my capabilities is so much fun!

4th Q:Which celebrity do you get mistaken for??

None. But I went to some university last month and many people though I really looked like a certain student in that school. I never got to meet her but I would really love to!!

5th Q: What songs are included to the soundtrack of your life??

Just a Kiss- Lady Antebellum
Let me be myself- Three Doors Down
Come Over- Kenny Chesney
Forever and for Always- Shania Twain
Switchfoot- Dare you to Move

I hope you can tell am a rockbabe from these songs.

I also hope that you now know a little more about me and you can tell me more about yourself by leaving some comment love!!