Month: October 2015

The Importance of Working Your Ass Off

work you ass off 2Sometimes we just need someone who can tell us things as they are. Tell it just like it is and get on with it. Well, am giving it to you straight today!!

Sometimes we are too subtle or too calm and collected with our friends and relatives. Sometimes we are too diplomatic with our blog readers or just people in general, to an extent where it is harmful.

Laziness is one thing that truly truly bugs me. Remember how some inspirational books ask you to find that one thing that truly bugs you in the world, and find a solution to it. This is it for me. Of course there are a couple of more issues, but laziness is definitely on top of that list.

Have you ever encountered someone who is just so freakin’ lazy and keeps on complaining and blaming anyone and everything in their path. At such times, I wish I had four, (no, make those ten) hands so that I could slap such a person with all of them at once, to get them out of the slumber.. Yeah!It’s that bad.

I know people who keep trying and even when they fail, they get up and try again. One day, such a person wakes up and realizes that the one time they wanted to give up, but kept on trying, they became successful.

Hardwork does pay: couple this with working smart and you will be on your way to true success. I am a true testament of this.

I know that sometimes we all fall off the wagon and sleep in or party for a full weekend straight, and this is absolutely normal. But come Monday, you wake up very early, you roll up your sleeves, and you get to work. This is the only way you will find satisfaction in life and eventually true success.

The following book can help you find motivation to get out of the house and work you ass off as you move towards your success. More books available HERE.

winning bookI only wish you the very best, today and in all of your life.

Where and How to Ask for Help When Motherhood Overwhelms You

motherhood is overwhelmingMy son has recently turned two and has decided that tantrums are a way of life now.. Imagine crying, rolling on the ground, screaming and endless whining. This week has been a little better actually, but last week was kind of overwhelming.

Being a mother comes with its joys, and also a fair share of trouble, guilt and heartache. Over the past few weeks, my son has developed a habit where instead of drinking his milk or water, he wants to spend hours pouring the drinks from one cup to another. Whenever I bring him something to drink, he rushes to the kitchen, brings another cup (or two) and begins his tricks. It drives me crazy. The worst of it comes at night when he wants to be left at the dinner table performing his liquid tricks, while everyone is in bed. You can imagine the crying once I take away his cups. Most of last week I went to bed angry because of the battles I had to endure with him. Sigh!

lowell and his liquidsThere he is at a friend’s house, doing his thing.

Motherhood can be overwhelming.

It is not your fault that you feel overwhelmed. Many of us are going through the same thing. It comes with the territory.

Are you overly emotional?

Are you always angry/sad maybe?

Are you overly sensitive?

Are you anxious all the time?

Do you feel like a volcano waiting to erupt? Or a ticking time bomb?

Are you always looking out for someone to annoy you so that you can snap at them and release the pressure?

These are all signs that you could be overwhelmed. I have gone through each of these and I know how bad it feels.

However, one simple thing can help you get over this feeling. Ask for HELP. Many of us find it so difficult to admit that we cannot do it all and that we actually need help raising these little beautiful angels aka terrorists.

Instead of releasing that anger towards your baby, your partner or your boss, try these useful tips to help clear your head and get you back on track.

  1. Ask your partner to watch the baby for a few hours. When my baby was around 1 year old and I was a stay-at-home mom, I would take Saturday afternoons off just to go get my hair done or to have sometime to myself. While baby and daddy played, I would use this time to focus on myself and things that made me happy. I would come back feeling rejuvenated and ready to tackle the challenges of raising my boy.
  2. Grandparents. This is one of my absolute favorites. I am already looking forward to the holidays so I can take my son to visit his grandparents and let him stay for a week or two. We have done this twice already and my baby is so happy with my mom and we are left with time to relax and just be. We use this time to focus on our marriage and our relationship as a couple. I miss my baby terribly, but I know by taking some time off, I am able to become the best version of myself, which is so helpful for my baby and my family.
  3. Friends. Sometimes all we can get is only 2-3 hours free time while our besties watch the baby on their day off. If you have friends who are mothers too, they might understand your need for some space and are willing to babysit the baby for a few hours. Do not be afraid to ask your friends for this favor. What are friends for, if not to watch the baby while you go have a manicure or drink a glass of wine?
  4. Daycare. If worse comes to worst and you have no relatives or friends nearby, just take the baby to the local daycare center. He will have fun playing with other kids and you will have your much needed space.
  5. Professional Counseling. If you feel absolutely overwhelmed or depressed, please seek professional help from a counselor. This can help you from spiraling into depression and other mental issues.

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How to throw a stress-free birthday party for your child

Asking for help is not always the simplest thing, but you just gotta do it. Pick up that phone, call your mom, your sister, your friend and ask them for help. Trust me, they want to help. All you gotta do is ASK. Do not wait until you are so depressed that they have to take you to a psychiatric hospital. Then, you will be of no help to your baby or your family. Take the time off to reduce the stress and let someone handle the baby for one day, or a week (like me).

You will come back feeling much more relaxed and with the power to be a super mom all over again.

Who do you ask for help when motherhood overwhelms you? How do you do it? Share.

8 Tips For Throwing the Best Stress-Free Birthday Party for Your Child

Birthday cake 2My Lowell recently turned 2 and we had the most fun putting together a birthday party for him, his numerous little friends, and of course, our friends. It turned out to be such a beautiful day and I enjoyed how fun it was. You can read more about it here.

Let me just say one thing beforehand, the 2nd birthday is not like the first. The boy remembers everything and I know the little memories are already starting to be embedded in his growing brain.Unlike the first birthday where the baby might be asleep the whole time and you can drink beer and eat cake with your friends, the 2nd one is definitely more for the baby. More importantly, at 2 years, he has already made several friends and they will be definitely looking up for an invite to the party.  Lowell remembers the cake and his auntie and uncle singing him Happy Birthday. He talks about it all the time, and he can recognize cake on TV, in the newspaper or magazine and pretty much anywhere he sees it. He always points it out and says “Kiki birthday”-loosely translated as Birthday Cake.

The planning process is what makes most parents (especially moms) cringe when they think of planning and hosting a birthday party. In my family, we are big on celebrating life and we don’t wanna watch the special days go by without notice. Many of my friends wonder why we do so much celebrating, but all I know is that these gatherings fill up our hearts and give us beautiful memories to cherish forever.

Though you will definitely be exhausted by the end of the birthday party (Coz I know I was), here are  a few tips that will make it easier for you to hold a perfectly beautiful and enjoyable birthday party for your little one.

  1. Start Planning Early: I know how much this sounds cliche, but it is one of the things that helped me host an awesome birthday party. I actually started making lists and sending out invites a month before the actual birthday. This makes it easy for people to confirm attendance and plan for the day beforehand.
  2. Create a Guest List. Create one for adults and one for kids. How many people will be there? How many will bring their kids? What about the neighborhood kids? Are they invited? I make a lot of lists and tick whatever task I have accomplished. Another friend creates spreadsheets  when planning events and you can do that too.
  3. Create a Simple Menu. Food is one of the most important things in a birthday party. What is party without food?? I say ‘no party’. Create a menu you are Vegetable ricecomfortable with. If you are the one cooking, don’t go for complicated meals. Choose recipes that are easy to follow. (I chose to make Pilau, Vegetable rice and Meat stew.) Make sure the food is appropriate for people of all ages, including kids. You don’t want the food to be too spicy, such that you have to cook some more for kids. If you are using outside catering services, contact them early and work with them to create a good menu.
  4. Prep the Cake. This is one of the most important aspects of the birthday party. All the guests, especially kids will be waiting for the cake. Birthday cake 2Make sure you contact the cake supplier early enough and work with them on the design or theme you need. Talk to them frequently, to ensure that they understand your needs perfectly to reduce chances of disappointments. I decided to use a baker who was referred to me by a friend and he did not disappoint. I was very happy and would gladly order another cake from them. Choose your baker wisely and work with them closely.
  5. Organize child-related activities. Have some toys for the children to enjoy so that they do not get bored easily. For Lowell’s birthday, the kids enjoyed playing outdoors, riding bikes and playing soccer. They had such great fun, while the adults chatted in the house.
  6. Make sure your baby is well-rested. A cranky baby=a terrible birthday party. Let your child sleep early the previous night and help them relax before the guests get there. When the baby is relaxed, they will have more fun and the birthday party will be a blast.
  7. Simplify and ask for help. Do not complicate things. Choose simple decor and do  the things you are good at. We chose to decorate our house with Birthday balloonsballoons only and it was so pretty, yet really simple. Do not be afraid to ask for help. It can be hectic and if you try and do it all alone, you will be too exhausted to enjoy the party. I asked my sister to come help with the cooking and everything else, which made things so much easier for me. She is such a doll.
  8. Have Fun. When it comes down to it, your child’s birthday party is all about fun. Let loose and do not fight the small things, like your carpet getting totally messy and the kids messing up their clothes and everything you planned perfectly. Go with the flow and let everything go as it comes.

The greatest birthdays are the ones where awesome memories are created. Enjoy.

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I Have Totally Become My Mother

I have become my motherJust to start on the right foot, my mother is an absolutely great woman and I am honored to be stepping into her shoes, because I could never fit into them.

I am starting a new series on the blog where I will be highlighting ways that I have adopted my mother’s character and embodied it into my own life. Sometimes the posts will be funny, like today and other times the post will be serious and heartfelt. Join in and you might find some interesting ways that you have totally become your mother.

I remember a few years back while still in campus, I woke up one morning very happy and excited. Those were the days when I viewed life with joy-filled eyes and everything seemed to make happy. I walked to the kitchen happily singing along to Rose Muhando’s ‘Nibebe‘. It was surely a happy morning. I peeled the green bananas sitting on the counter and went ahead to boil them for breakfast. With a little salt and a spoonful of margarine, they can be very tasty.

As mouthfuls of the bananas were washed down with sugarless African tea, I thought to myself, ‘I am totally just like my mother.’ She enjoys this breakfast very much and drinks her tea without sugar.

My hubby (then boyfriend), did not comprehend how a normal person could perceive this as breakfast, let alone enjoy it. He didn’t think it was funny either. Fast forward to two weeks ago and he was requesting boiled green bananas for breakfast. “Who knew this day would ever come?” I thought to myself. The only question I had: Is he becoming my mother too?? Go figure.

In what ways does your character resemble your mother or father?? Please share….

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Does Jumia Actually work? The Honest Truth

When you hear about online shopping in Kenya, what comes to your mind??

Do you think of sending money to someone, never to see what you ordered?

Do you think of a tedious process that leaves you frustrated, never wanting to buy anything online ever again?

Or do you think about the exaggerated shipping fees, that keep you away from shopping online?

There are so many online scams worldwide and in Kenya that sometimes deter people from buying thins online.

To be honest with you, I love technology. Whenever I hear of some new technology, I develop an innate desire to try it. Talk to me about a new way to send and receive money online, I will try it. Talk of how I can buy a cute dress and have it delivered to my doorstep, I will try it. Have you ever heard of the early adopters of technology??I am definitely in that category. I think its my inner belief in that technology has made our world so much better.

When I heard of Jumia Kenya a few years ago, I was a little skeptical. I remember watching those tv ads with people who did not look like Kenyans delivering gorgeous shes and other items to excited customers and wonder what this company was all about. However, the desire to try new things out got to me and I knew I would eventually give in.

When my beautiful Tecno M3 phone fell in a bucket full of water, I knew there was no hope. Though it showed its resilient side and awoke from the deep slumber caused by an intense swimming session, the charging system was beyond repair and I was suddenly in the market for a new phone.

Instead of going to the usual <insert safaricom shop here> places to search for a phone, I decided to try out Jumia Kenya. I had heard not heard a lot of stuff about Jumia online shopping in Kenya, but I decided to try it anyway. I searched and searched, until I came upon a phone that was affordable, good-looking, and with all the features of an awesome smartphone. I needed a phone that could handle my heavy browsing since I work online, and could take good photos of my ever growing little man. That is when I came across the Infinix Hot Note on Jumia online shop. I read all the reviews I could get and finally decided to make the order. I ordered the phone, plus a cover and a screen protector.

Jumia Order MayThe total doesn’t add up because there was a 500 discount applied using a coupon I had from subscribing to their newsletter.

The Jumia representative called me within 20 minutes to confirm my order and delivery place. I confirmed that I wanted my good delivered all the way in Thika where I live. I was super excited.

Jumia Confirmation

The good:

  • I made my order on Friday and I got my phone and the screen protector on Sunday.
  • The delivery man from Jumia was very nice and he called beforehand to tell me that my order was ready for delivery.
  • He was supposed to wait till Monday to deliver, but he brought it a day earlier and I was so happy for that.
  • I tested the phone first, took a few pictures and made sure everything was ok before confirming my order.
  • I paid via Mpesa using the number that the delivery man gave me after I confirmed that everything was fine.

One not so good thing:

  • The cover I had ordered was out of stock when I ordered and was not delivered with the rest of the items. It was delivered a week later and I made the payment after I received it.

It was such a good experience and I have been using my Infinix Hot Note smartphone for over 5 months now and I love it. No problems yet and everything works as it should. My hubby is always jealous that I have such a good phone.

Infinix Hot Note

Additional info:

I recently ordered an Infinix Hot 2 for my sister from Jumia Kenya online and the experience was still as good as it was when I bought my phone. By the way,the Infinix Hot 2 is such an awesome phone and Jumia is selling it at such an affordable price (8,999) only. Am sure the prices will go higher soon, just like what happened with the Hot Note, so you better get yours asap. If you need any help, you can always leave a comment or contact me on the Work With Me page.

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